One of the most fascinating aspects of being a mom has been how DIFFERENT kids are.
I guess you kinda know that in general…of course we’re all different and have different personalities…of course.
But somehow, seeing it play out in my own home is just so intriguing.
Take Henry. A classic introvert. Loves all things science and math. Loves to have big, heady, way older than he is conversations. He often cuddles up with me and says “Mom, what should we talk about?” He’s an old soul. Sensitive. Feels empathy in a way that I see very rarely in even adults.
Lu is an extrovert to the core. Asks me how many days until school starts daily. Wants to know when her friend can come over. Always wants to come with me to the store, even if it’s nowhere exciting. She likes to draw and color and be creative. She is BOLD. I remember when she was a newborn, I could see the feisty independence as early as 6 weeks old and I used to say “If she didn’t need me for sustenance, I’m pretty sure she’d have her own apartment by now.” SIX WEEKS and I could tell. Seriously.
Jill is an almost perfect mix of sweet and silly. She has a goofiness to her that pairs perfectly with a dainty femininity. She loves books and animals. And seems especially pleased with herself when she makes us laugh. Also, sugar. Girlfriend loves sugar. Because cake.
Owen is the resident class clown. Precocious, goofy, and thrives on being the center of attention. Pretty sure I’ll be getting notes home from the principal with this one. And yet, the biggest mama’s boy of them all. #naughtyporkchop and such.
My four kids have four distinct personalities. YET, they all have the same parents. The same upbringing. The same home. The same discipline. The same socio-economic status. The same EVERYTHING ELSE.
And yet, from their very earliest moments, I began to see shimmers of their personality, even as bitty burrito wrapped babies.
AND THIS FREAKS ME OUT.
Because it reminds me, like a smack in the face, that God made them this way.
God created these little tiny, deliciously grunting, arms over the head, legs pulled tight stretching babes.
And here they are. In my care.
The most delicate of packages. Addressed to me and Andy. And hot dang if that isn’t a heavy realization some days.
As a mom, I know that who I am to my children, the expectations I place on them, the way I interact, react, and project will slowly shape them as they grow. Sometimes for the good. Sometimes for the bad.
But always, my goal is to encourage them to be who God created them to be.
To see their strengths and weaknesses and rather than try to put a square peg in a round hole, I want to walk alongside them. Even if it’s not the exact path I would have preferred.
Naturally, one of my all-time favorite quotes is from George Macdonald. I’ve had this quote printed out in a simple Arial font and framed in Henry’s room since before he was born. A simple reminder that this motherhood thing isn’t so much about me and what I want, but about God and what He intended.
When Kristi of Barn Owl Primitives offered to make me a custom sign (and host another giveaway!), I knew I wanted a prettier version of my sign.
And, as you can see, she did not disappoint.
Her work is just perfection.
The color combos. The just-right amount of distressing. Perfection. (Also, this xylophone? I die.)
I love that I’m reminded in such a happy way.
And that my kids might see my heart in these words. That they might think “Yeah, Mom screws up. She could do lots of things better. But you know, I get what she’s trying to do.”
All of that to say that I need visual reminders sometimes. To re-focus what my overall goals are. To give me a sense of Deep Breathe You Can Do This moments. To gently say Hey. Get over yourself. This is bigger than Legos on the floor and broken tea sets.
I love intentional art. I can’t decide if this latest BOP sign or my rainbow one is my favorite. Can you have two favorites?
Kristi is generously offering one of you a $75 credit to her shop!
Just fill in the rafflecopter prompts below and I’ll select a winner on Saturday, March 22!
Please Note: gift certificate is valid towards the purchase of product only. Winner is responsible for any taxes and shipping charges where applicable. This gift certificate cannot be combined with any other offer or discount code.
Disclosure: I was provided a sign for review. All opinions are my own. The usual.