De-Lurk Here

Why hellllllooooo there!

So, here’s the deal:

I know there’s a lot of you out there.

Don’t think I don’t have Google Analytics installed.

You think you’re sneaky, eh?

Reading my blog, sneaking out the backdoor to meet your other blog boyfriend?

Yeah, well, this mama ain’t dumb.

She hears that screendoor slam shut behind the three inch stillettos you can hardly walk in…

Actually, I totally understand.

I stalk blogs too.

The reality is that I often don’t have time to comment, or I feel like I don’t have anything to say (shocking), or I don’t have both hands free to actually type!

BUT, if you are a blogger, you know what I mean when I say that COMMENTS MATTER.

Honestly, they. make. my. day.

So, take this as a virtual guest book. Complete with a goofy feathered pen. And two little girls standing there supervising.

Take a sec, comment here, say hello, introduce yourself.

It’d make my day.

For reals.

Then you won’t feel so guilty when you think you’re being all stealth.

‘Cuz you’re totally not.

Just so you know.


(credit for de-lurk idea goes to gypsy mama!)

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I'm a mom to four. A wife to one. I believe in story. I love telling you about mine and would love to hear yours. There's really no sense in wasting our suffering and not sharing in each other's joy. We're all in this together...even if it doesn't always feel like it.

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  1. 454

    Hello there. You have been popping up in my facebook feed from some women whose opinion i hold very high and I came to read the post they have been raving about and found myself in tears and nodding the entire way thru it. I appreciate your words and the fluidity and grace of your writing. I appreciate the honesty and I have spent more time than I care to admit reading your story and lovely words. Thank you for putting yourself out there and allowing me to read it. have a beautiful day friend :)


  2. 455

    I just found your blog through a friend who shared a post about “alright and okay” as a cancer survivor, mother to one, special ed teacher and battling secondary infertility it REALLY spoke to me…I look forward to reading more and learning more about you :)
    Amanda Rogers´s last blog post ..Where Have I Been?!?

  3. 456

    hello jeanette, i’m hidemi.
    I have been the lurker of your blog for the past year or so, and i don’t even remember how i came upon your blog( probably thru lisa leonard’s blog which i’ve been lurking for a few years). i just saw your “de-lurk” botton today and thought it’s about time to introduce myself.
    i enjoy reading your blog and appreciate your words. i love reading your everyday story of struggles i can relate. also your big caring heart for those who are underprivileged. keep up the good work!
    there! now i can read your blog with gult-free conscious!

    p.s. i’m also friend with lindsey and brendan c. i didn’t know you guys know each other until i saw her baby shower in your blog. you did a beautiful job and she told me it was wonderful. brendan said that they have restraining order on you from the baby. i can understand. he’s too beautiful to not to!

  4. 457

    I am new to your site…I am a mom of a three year old boy. I don’t have it all together. I enjoy life but life is messy….my life is rearranged :) I have epilepsy….I lost my second child in my second trimester almost a year to the day….joy comes in all shapes and forms and sizes….that’s how I knew I had found a blog that spoke to my heart. There is always a story behind the picture you see on the Internet….many times a messy journey is required before the smile you see on the social media site. Thank you for the blog. I am Kelly and I am officially de lurked. ;)

  5. 458

    I’ve read a few of your posts over the years because some of my favorite bloggers have said such great things about certain posts. Today was such a day. Little Miss Momma posted about “Alright and Okay” and I clicked over to read. I just about lost it right here at my desk. I knew right away that I needed to follow you. Your words hit me in such a powerful way and I wish others could read it to better know how to talk to me. Thanks for sharing your amazing insight and heart. I’ll be sticking around.

  6. 459

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  8. 461

    I just found your blog tonight. I am a mom to three. I have one child who is a cancer survivor (rhabdomyosarcoma–it’s rare and crappy) and also have an EoE child (eosinsophilic esophagitis–it’s also rare and crappy). Thanks for sharing your story. It rings true to me on a lot of levels.

  9. 462

    Good morning,
    You are right – I do stalk your blog from time to time, but I love it! Thanks for sharing everything with us. I hope that my blog can grow up to be just like yours one day. :)
    Have a great day!
    Christina´s last blog post ..Wheatless Wednesday Recipe

  10. 463

    I’ve been hanging around here for quite some time now and seeing as I’m becoming a more regular commenter I should really de-lurk myself! Hi, I’m Jessica. Recently turned full time mama and spare time blogger over at The Open Home. Life has been rearranged for my family quite a few times over recent years and for a while it seemed to be one hard, horrible or heartbreaking thing after another. However, here I am today, currently enjoying life with my Husband and our baby girl, in our hometown of Guernsey, a teeny British island. I am a faithful reader of your blog, I love how you write with such honesty and experience. You have a beautiful family and I feel I learn a lot from you, so thank you!
    Jessica´s last blog post ..Island Life and the Pursuit of Diversity

  11. 464

    Stumbled upon your blog from the pleated poppy. Definitely a lurker, but love your cute blog! Keep up the good work!!!

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  12. 465

    I found you through Pleated Poppy, too, and am so glad I did. Girl! Your heart shines!! I can’t wait to poke around your blog and read more, more, more. I recently revamped my own blog to veer away from constant project tutorials and more toward things that matter to me, what’s on my heart, supporting causes and businesses that want to do some good…I see that you do, too. Delighted to find you and looking forward to getting to know you : )
    Jaimee @ Craft, Interrupted´s last blog post ..Currently {v.62}

  13. 466

    It was a post of a post from a group on Facebook. Alright and Okay….that I am not. So it was a great validating read, thank you! I have twin boys who were born 3 months early. I am a solo parent as their dad decided it wasnt his thing….around 15 weeks in. I think it was the gas…I dont know. They also have autism. So yeah, not quite Alright and Okay. Wish people would stop using those words. They are naughty words.

    Thanks for being open and that post. Ps I did blog about that post.

  14. 467

    I stopped by to enter the Little Mermaid contest… but after reading about Jill, I have to stay. From the bits I’ve read so far, she seems to face many of the same challenges as my “niece-by-choice” Sarah (her mommy and I went to school together). Miss Sarah has Rett Syndrome, so I’m always on the lookout for suggestions on how to interact with her, positively or negatively.

  15. 468

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  16. 469
    Kelly Morley says:

    Hi Jeannette,
    I found you through little Miss Momma. I have never read your blog before, clicked on the link and BAM! Epilepsy. We also have a daughter fighting this monster. She will be 6 on Novemeber 20th. She was diagnosed on her first birthday. I just wanted to say hello, you are not alone and thank you for having the bravery to share your story. Amazing. Thank you.

  17. 470

    Hi! i found you through Little Miss Momma. She shared your latest post about your daughter and I was prompted to come and “stalk”. :) Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and your little. While we aren’t dealing with Epilepsy, Cancer or another life threatening condition, we are dealing with a rash. A rash that hasn’t gone away in over 6 months. While there is more to our story, it just reminds me that we are all going through something. And from the outside looking in, its not always that cut and dry. Thank you for sharing, for speaking the truth, even when its hard to write. Xoxo
    Kate S´s last blog post ..BABY BOY :: WISH LIST

  18. 471

    I found you through Little Miss Momma…amazing story you have. I care for a family member with a severe disorder…bi-polar disorder. She happens to be my mom and not my chilld. I can totally relate to how you feel in regards to Epilepsy versus cancer. Everyone assumes when my mom is doing good, everything is ok! And it is great to see her doing good…but there is a constant worry that comes with a severe disorder. Especially when you have seen just how bad it can be….3.5 hour seisure?!!? Bless your heart and her little heart :( Keep up the good blogging you do! I’m going to lurk a little more.

    You have a beautiful family! keep up the great work you do as a momma!

  19. 472

    Thanks for your DLR review of the new policies. We were just there and our daughter is the child with both a physical and behavioral disability. The new system has some major kinks in it and I am sure there is a better way to serve the disabled and not punish them for the misdeeds of scammers. I wish you the best.

  20. 473

    I’m Kayla.
    I’m 24 and pretty fortunate.
    My parents love me.
    I’m a nanny for a rad little girl named Kadence and two 11month old twin boys; Jack & Jordan.
    My boyfriend actually got me hooked on your blog and for the 72 hours that I’ve known about it, I’ve been stalking it ;) I love it. I love story telling (I taught preschool for 3 years so I’ve got a special place for stories!) I personally don’t have much of a story but I naturally love to help and make people feel good (when really they fulfill me). So, here I am…a total blog follower! I’ll be at the walk on Sunday November 17.

  21. 474
    Diva Almeida says:

    Hi Jeannett, Not sure you even remember me but I am your cousin (on your dad’s side). I spoke with your dad today and he told me about your blog, so…here I am :-). I can’t believe everything you have been through, you are such a strong woman and your husband seems to be a great guy. I am far from a blogger, and don’t really read them…although I have never really found one that could capture and hold my interest very long :-). I feel like I have just caught up with you in about 2 hours of reading your blog. Your kids are beautiful!!!
    I have 3 kids of my own…2 boys (12 & 10) and 1 girl (8 going on 17! LOL) Becoming a mother was the happiest and most fulfilling thing I have ever experienced, but it has also been the HARDEST! It has its easy days where everyone gets along and then there are those days of whining, screaming, and dramatic rants…and that’s just me :-) I’ve been married for 14 years and like when you got married at 21, I was also told that I was too young to get married at 23.
    Well, I guess I have taken up enough comment space…I guess we Rocha’s love to talk LOL. Now that I found your story I am going to continue reading it. You seem to have brought so much hope and happiness to so many lives, I am so proud of you and the woman you have become.
    Please keep in touch.
    Love, Diva

  22. 475

    Hi Jeannett!

    Im Erin, and I have been periodically lurking here for a while ;) I fist came across your blog through Little Miss Momma. She shared a blog post of yours called Alright and Ok”

  23. 476

    So…. My computer evidently has a mind of its own and posted that before I was done! Whoops! Anyway… I have periodically come back to lurk, and I have found myself doing it more so recently than before. Your epilepsy series has seriously spoken to me. Our youngest, Abby(she is 1), has been showing signs and symptoms of Cerebral Palsy ever since she was an infant. It wasn’t until recently that we began to “put two and two together”. We are actually going to see a specialist tomorrow. All day I have been so anxious and nervous. And then tonight I found myself here, on your blog. I just wanted to thank you. Even though I do not know you, I just wanted you to know that what you share will probably help this momma sleep tonight. So thank you. Praying for your family tonight and thanking God for your words!


  24. 477

    Hi, I love this idea…. It’s like putting out a welcome mat for your visitors. I found your blog through Katie at Creole Wisdom and I’m glad I did. Take care and have a great weekend.

  25. 478

    Hello Jeannett,
    My name is Sharon. I’m a lurker! Haha. But other than that, I’m a Navy wife, an Autism mom, and a SoCal Disney lover. I found you through a few Instagrammers I follow {namely that sweet wifeysinger}. Thank you for your honest, heartfelt blog! So encouraged by you.
    Sharon C´s last blog post ..InstaFriday

  26. 479

    Hi I am a lurker. admit it. I am a Jesus lover, wife, mom, wanna be awesome blog and podcaster, and sewist. I need to do more sewing but sometimes I just run out of time. I am so excited about my new blog and podcast that I loose track of time. But that is ok… as long as I take the time to love on my little ones all is ok.

  27. 480

    I am not sure how I even stumbled across your site – some cross reference for me seeking another Jill who is a colleague. Anywho, I see you blog pop up and cute kids and I think – hmmm, maybe she’s crafty like me, (love a good craft or pinterest tag) so I clicked on your “about” tag.
    Wow – what a story. I just wanted to say, you are truly blessed and I hope that you and your family continue to be blessed!
    Thank you for sharing your story with the rest of us – testament to if there is a will, there is a way.

  28. 481

    Hi! I came to lurk on you site via The Pleated Poppy. I love your Friday link up idea. Random and fun stuff. Adding you to my blog roll so I will be lurking more. :)
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  29. 482
    Jenn Ferris says:

    Hello. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with others including me I stumbled on your blog through The Pleated Poppy and am so very thankful to have found you. My youngest daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy in July 2013. She just happened to fall asleep in our bed and I awoke to the entire bed shaking – she was having a massive seizure. My husband and I had no idea what was happening and called an ambulance. Many hospital visits and doctor visits and test and medicine later we now know she has had epilepsy for quite a while and has been having seizures in her sleep. This is such new and unknown territory for us and I feel akin to someone in a boat with no paddle. I dont know anyone who has a child with epilepsy to talk to and your blog is the first I have found with anyone sharing their journey and I thank you. Its so wonderful to not feel alone in this. The books Ive read educate me but your words have soothed me. Thank you, please know you and your family are in my praises and prayers.

  30. 483

    Hi I’m Jill (awesome name right) mom of 2 girls Tessa 9 and Emersyn 5. Married to a Farmer and animal lover!! I am also a mom to a child with CP and epilepsy. My 5 year old Emersyn who is full of spunk was diagnosed at 2 with epilepsy. I look forward to reading your blog!!!

  31. 484
    Mary Mayer says:

    Hi, Jill, My name is Mary. I found your blog through a link my niece posted on Facebook. I am not a parent. I am a wife though and I have a dog who is like a kid to me. I probably have more in common with your daughter than I do with you. You see, I was born with Spina Bifida. From my first breath, I was given a death sentence that was extended one day, one month and on and on until it became clear that I was indeed NOT going to die. I am 49 years old today. My parents could not have ever known I was going to be born with a birth defect. But, like you, the decided the best thing to do for me was love me and treat me like my other six older siblings. They did that very well. I know more about what your daughter endures and will endure than I know about how it feels to be the parent who can’t make it go away or make it better. I can tell you that on most days I would NEVER give up having spina bifida. Yeah it would be easier…but on the other hand I don’t really get the concept of easier, because nothing has been easy for me. It won’t be for you child either. But I revel in those hard fought battles to walk, to learn and the endless other things I have achieved I have a feeling if you instill this in your daughter she will feel the same. If I can give you one bit of advice it would be this. Don’t ever let your daughter entertain the thought that she wants her CP to go away, mostly because it never will. She can be mad that she has to have it, but trust me having a bad attitude about it, or being mad is wasted energy, and that is the real burden. She has abilities she will just do things in a different way. I have always considered my disability which is quite severe, to be a gift. I don’t know what I am missing. I don’t miss running because I never could. Teach her to always focus on what she can do. Don’t let can’t be part of her vocabulary. I believe that when God chooses for a child to be born with a disability, He also gives them the will to deal with it, help her find that will, and she will do great things. Lastly, just like I will never know what it’s like to be the parent of a child with a disability, you can never know what it like for you daughter to live with her disability. She will face challenges everyday, and she will get through them if you always teach her she can do it. If she falls, let her get back up and try again. I hope this gives you hope. I know you hear from parents who share your feelings. I thought it might help you to hear from someone who shares what your daughter feels or will feel as she grows. Feel free to keep in touch.


  32. 485

    Hi! I just found your blog, and wanted to thank you for your writing. I am especially interested in your current series on epilepsy. My daughter has CP, epilepsy, hearing loss, and global developmental delay. I am encourages by your positive attitude!

  33. 486

    Hi There,
    I am a foster mom to special needs babies. I enjoyed reading “Why it matters when we rub our bellies and say “so long as it’s healthy”

    It was a especially hard day today and your blog lifted my spirit and reminded me, what a meaningful journey I am on! I am so thankful my babies are here too!
    Megin´s last blog post ..An Open Letter to all our Supporters

  34. 487

    Hi! I’m a big lurker on almost everything I join. I thought I’d just de-lurk this time because I wanted to express how much I like this blog and absolutely love its motto:

    Life doesn’t always go as planned. Help others anyway.

    So true!
    M Anderer´s last blog post ..What Causes Thyroid Problems?

  35. 488

    Hi! I love your blog! I love your honesty and sense of humor. I’m so sorry that Jill has to suffer so. It totally breaks my heart. I had a niece who suffered from seizures and would quit breathing. I remember my sister walking around holding Melanie, crying and praying for the seizure to pass so that she would again breathe. I have watched the heartbreak and now that I’m a mom, I can’t imagine the stress of watching the little person whom you love more than life, fight for her life. I cannot read your blog posts about Jill without crying. She’s precious. God has indeed blessed you. Blessings come in all kinds of different packages! I will pray for you and yours dear sister. (And follow your blog!)

  36. 489

    Hello there….I just came upon your blog today while trying to get an unbiased opinion of the benik vest. My daughter Alivia is 5 and has CP. Although she can’t walk or sit up unassisted….she can talk, and she is probably one of the most sharp minded and witty people I know. Its nice to read others peoples stories and know that we aren’t in this alone. We live in a very small community and Alivia is really the first kid who has a disability, that people around here have met. Its hard to deal with the stares when we are out because I can tell that people want to know what’s wrong or how she got this way. I have no problem telling our story and how we got to where we are now, but what drive me crazy is when you tell someone that your kid has special needs most times their immediate response is “ooohhh I’m so sorry”. It makes me want to scream! Anyway…I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories. Its nice to know we aren’t alone!

  37. 490

    I have been reading your blog for a couple of months now, and it is one of my favorites. You’re so REAL. I think that’s what draws people to you, you open up your life to people, to strangers and share your story, struggles and all. It’s amazing to me. You give a voice to people who share your struggles and don’t know how to put there selves out there and you give them comfort that they’re bit alone in this journey. A little about me, my name is Sarah. I am a 29 year old moth to 3 girls who are 9,6 and 15 months. I am married and live in Ca in the stupid Central Valley. In June when my oldest 2 are out of school I will be moving to Atascadero which I am really looking forward to! Well… I just was de-lurking myself there haha and wanted to say thank you for taking the time and speaking to all of us out here just trying to do what we do (:

  38. 491

    Hi Jeannett! I just discovered your blog (I am new to blogging!) but I am totally loving it! I have just recently started my own blog about raising my son with cerebral palsy. I would love to connect with other Moms of children with special needs. Do you have any tips or suggestions?
    Thanks so much!
    -Julie B
    Julie B´s last blog post ..Kids Who Can

  39. 492
    Creative Outlet says:

    OMG! I wish I came across this blog 2 years ago when I felt there was no one to share my feelings with when my son was born premature and had all kinds of things wrong. I’m glad I found it now though. Your little girl is so adorable. I found your blog on “little miss momma” under the blog name “close to my heart”. Reading your story actually made me tear up and my heart feels for you. You are a very strong momma. :)

  40. 493

    Hey, since you called me out and everything I guess I will say hello! No, for real I said hello on your post earlier. I am glad to here after following Lindsey at the Pleated Poppy and reading her Friday posts…InstaFridays!

    Thanks again.
    Shon´s last blog post ..Free Style

  41. 494

    Hi! Just recently found your blog! I LOVE your Insta-Friday posts! I decided to try a post like that this week on my blog! Thanks for your inspiration, I look forward to reading more of your posts !

  42. 495

    Um, this? This is pure blogging genius.
    So, just know that in case my blog ever becomes big and famous and you happen to stumble across it and then lurk for a while and then DE-LURK yourself, you will remember this comment and know where the idea came from and feel special.
    Sarah @ Little Bus on the Prairie´s last blog post ..The Move (Stage I)

  43. 496

    Hello. I am a look-it-up, read-the-directions, then do-what-works sort of girl living in the Blue Ridge Mountains. One of my best friend’s daughter (who is friends with my own little girl) was diagnosed with ALL in February and will complete induction this week. I’m reading everything I can get my hands on, and making every effort to be PRESENT. Thank you for all that you do – here in this space – to equip me to be a better friend to her and to help my daughter navigate her little friend’s fight with cancer. With gratitude, awc

  44. 497

    It’s about time I de-lurked. I have been enjoying your blog for more than a year now. Your blog has informed my acceptance of my own child’s diagnosis in August, given me all kinds of reasons to laugh, reasons to cry ugly but good cries, and tons of pictures to enjoy on Friday mornings (or Saturdays, or when-evs). I just want to say thank you. I know it takes tons of time to do what you do. It matters. It is appreciated. You are helping in not just fundraising, but in touches momma’s lives.

  45. 498
    Sara Tank says:

    Hi!! This is my de-lurking… long time reader, first time comment-or (I think). Honestly, perhaps I have commented before but simply can’t remember at the moment. I do love your blog a whole heap ton. I read it close to daily, and check it a bunch. This is easily one of my favorites, to the point where I”ve told friends to check out your blog too and sometimes we talk about your stories like we’ve met! (<< If that isn't a lurker comment, I don't know what is). Keep up the good work. Keep up the real work. Keep up being your awesome wifey/mommy self. Signing out, from Houston TX